I Never Knew

Once upon a time a man fell in love with a lady, but after they’d been together a while he grew tired of her. He searched for another. He didn’t realize he already had everything he needed to make him happy. 

Recognize this story? It’s told in a song titled, “Escape” or better known as the “Pina Colada Song.”

I was tired of my lady, we’d been together too long.

Like a worn out recording, of a favorite song.

So while she lay there sleeping, I read the paper in bed.

And in the personals column, there was this letter I read:

If you like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain.

If you’re not into yoga, if you have half-a-brain.

If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape.

I’m the lady you’ve looked for, write to me, and escape.

The story may be more familiar to some of you because you’ve experienced exactly what Rupert Holmes is singing about. I have in my own marriage.  We all tend to be creatures of habit and routine. The problem is the same old dull routine can become quite boring.

The song continues:

I didn’t think about my lady.  I know that sounds kind of mean.

But me and my old lady, had fallen into the same old dull routine.

So I wrote to the paper, took out a personal ad.

And though I’m nobody’s poet, I thought it wasn’t half bad.

Yes, I like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain.

I’m not much into health food, I am into champagne.

I’ve got to meet you by tomorrow noon, and cut through all this red tape.

At a bar called O’Malley’s, where we’ll plan our escape.

Although most of us never resort to reading or taking out personal ads, we do resign ourselves to an uninteresting, lifeless marriage.  But what if we sought to learn something new about our spouse or discovered, again, those things that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place?

This happened for us when we changed a few things and forced ourselves out of the monotony of our lives. We were in the habit of doing things separately and rarely made time to do things together. About a year ago we became involved in a small group from our church that meets weekly and have made a lot of new friends. We’ve taken two classes together. This helped us see each other in new ways. We realize we don’t have to settle for a dreary marriage if we take the time to discover new things about each other. Because of that, we love each other deeper and we’ve learned a lot about each other…..things we never knew.

So I waited with high hopes, then she walked in the place.

I knew her smile in an instant; I knew the curve of her face.

It was my own lovely lady, and she said, “oh, it’s you.”

And we laughed for a moment, and I said, “I never knew”…

That you like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain.

And the feel of the ocean, and the taste of champagne.

If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape.

You’re the love that I’ve looked for, come with me, and escape.

It can be this way for all of us when we realize there is more to learn about the people we love and if we take the time to discover those things.

Photo by Phoenix Han on Unsplash

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  1. Lisa Cowles on December 13, 2011 at 9:10 pm

    This blog really touched me. I have enjoyed reading your blogs, they have made me realize the changes I need to make in my life. Keep writing Marie, it’s what you were meant to do.

    • mariegriffith on December 14, 2011 at 10:08 am

      Girl, thank you for the encouragement. I would love to see you. Call me so we can make a plan!!

    • Robin Turner on January 9, 2012 at 8:03 am

      I totally agree!!

  2. mariegriffith on March 10, 2014 at 6:07 pm

    Reblogged this on Full-Time and commented:

    You can always learn more about those closest to you. Take the time to discover something new about the ones you care about. The song I talk about in this post says it all!

  3. Have you seen Chris? on August 8, 2015 at 8:38 am

    I know this is an old post of yours (found on your top 10 list). My wife and I are at this place in our marriage right now. At 23 years, it kind of seems to creep up on you, the boredom, monotony, routine. We too are working hard to rediscover each other. I hope 4 years later all is well in your marriage too.

    • mariegriffith on August 8, 2015 at 9:12 am

      We are in a much better place now but it was a tough road to get here. I am so thankful that we are working through it. I love the history and memories we share. The good, the bad, and even the ugly. Marriage is work. I hope you and your wife will work through it and remember why you fell in love in the first place and discover new reasons to love even more.

      • Have you seen Chris? on August 8, 2015 at 12:06 pm

        One of your posts mentioned times that you and/or your husband wanted to leave ….. Even the week prior. I think this is so common and confusing. You are so right that it is pushing past these times that creates memories and builds trust and love. I truly believe marriage is Gods #1 method for sanctification and why it is so important to him. Think about the phenomenal changes in becoming more like Christ we find staying in marriage.

        Thanks for sharing your faith and your struggles so openly!!

        • mariegriffith on August 8, 2015 at 1:10 pm

          You’re right. I know for me personally that it’s the main method God is using to make me more like Christ. And yes it’s hard. But there is abundant joy as well. Blessings to you and your family. Thank you for being real in a world that needs it more than ever.

  4. Shiva Malekopmath on August 27, 2016 at 11:18 am

    I never knew
    You are the love I looked for
    Come with me and escape.

  5. Shiva Malekopmath on August 27, 2016 at 1:26 pm

    Here I have included your title with the last lines.
    So anybody would love to read it or write it that way.
    You have done both.

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