I remember what prompted this post. I was so overwhelmed with everything: the normal activities of family life, my job, aging parents, and any other life stuff. But as I wrote about it, I learned something.

Today. I can only do today, right now, this moment.

So much has happened since this post over 2 years ago. Both Mom and Dad are gone and I miss them deeply. I wanted to call Mom yesterday when I finally finished something I’d been working on for weeks. She would have said, “Great, I knew it would all work out!” And I would have told her how relieved I was that it was done, and she would have told me she loved me and I would have told her I love her.

But I couldn’t call her. I could only remember her. And be thankful I had a wonderful mom. And grateful I’d learned to live in the moment when I did.

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  1. onegirlsjourneytofreedom on July 28, 2015 at 2:11 pm

    I understand you there. Sometimes I can’t sleep at night because I keep thinking about how much I have to do. Or if I’m at dinner with friends and I can’t stop checking my phone thinking that I’m going to be missing out on something important if I didn’t.

    And the thing with parents and grandparents…we often think they’re just always going to be there…except that’s not true. There’s always ‘something’ to be done, ‘more’ to be done. But I don’t think you need to cram it all into one day and make yourself scrambling from here and there. I feel that we should maybe just give ourself five, or ten minutes and reflect, and think about maybe scrambling isn’t the way to go. We should stop ‘reacting’ to situation as they happen, but instead, prioritize and deal with situations accordingly. And what I’ve realized recently, time spent with family, is hardly a waste of time. Especially since I’ve decided that the city my parents chose might not be the right one for me. It might be glamorous for some, living in a different city. But when I do think about it. I’ll be just on my own and if I wanted to call them, I’d have to wait until the appropriate timezone. So now I cherish the time I spend with them and try to overlook all the imperfections. Because time really is priceless.

    • mariegriffith on July 28, 2015 at 2:17 pm

      Sounds like you have a lot of wisdom. I will forever treasure the time spent with them. You’re right, at the end of my life I won’t regret the time I spent with my family and friends. I would regret if I had not.

  2. onegirlsjourneytofreedom on July 28, 2015 at 2:22 pm

    Thank you, I do think a lot. Sometimes I think I think too much.

  3. Scott on July 28, 2015 at 3:35 pm

    There is more going on with the other side than we understand. I was in Nevada when I called home and learned that my mother had slipped into a coma. I was nearly 24 hours in getting home, back to Oregon. She didn’t respond when I took her hand in mine and talked to her, but an hour after my arrival she was gone. She knew I was coming, and she waited.

    Your mother may know what you’ve done without your call.

  4. mariegriffith on July 28, 2015 at 4:33 pm

    Thank you Scott. I think your mother knew you were there.

  5. claywatkins on July 30, 2015 at 7:36 am

    Losing a parent is difficult. My dad passed six summers ago, my father-in-law passed last summer. I am slowly coming to grips with my dad and his legat to me, my wife still grieves and I kiss him, too. there are days when I want to call them or sit down and sip a cup of coffee with either of them, but I can’t. Instead I say a prayer and think of them. We take what we need, one day at time.

    • mariegriffith on July 30, 2015 at 7:58 am

      Yes I know I will always miss them but always thank God for them.

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